Hey leader, It’s time to show up. It’s time to show that you care. Why now, you ask? In a recent survey about the future of work, 60.2% of the respondents said that their mental health is worse than it was before the COVID 19 outbreak....
In my work with clients lately four themes have come up again and again. They all have to do with having hard conversations at work. Things like giving people feedback and speaking our truth. And I feel you. Talking about tough things at work—or at...
When was the last time you finished your to-do list? I mean, really. When was the last time you felt like you were done doing. Been awhile? Yeah, me too. You’re not alone. Many of us carry around this sack of feelings centered around the notion...
I have been a business owner and entrepreneur for 20 years.I don’t really have a “boss.” My team sometimes reminds me of this fact. I’ll say, with mild complaint, “I have to work this weekend”.To which they respond, tongue in cheek, “Ah,...
I have a recurring dream that I am back in high school. It starts out great with high fives to friends by my old locker and my favorite English teacher assigning a cool paper. But it always ends in a nightmare. In the dream, I learn that I actually...
May I remember the fear of the competitive job interview. The cold sweat of the weak odds of getting it.
May I remember not getting the job and that sinking, heavy feeling of being not enough—not good enough. Not smart enough. Not experienced enough.
May I remember the times let show the weight of what I was carrying and the subsequent knowing that my burden would impact the quality of my work even though I did not want it to.
One of my funniest conversations with my (now adult) children was the one we had last year about learning how to tie their shoes. My middle son had proclaimed at dinner that he didn’t learn to tie his shoes until college. He mentioned during a visit it because his girlfriend had teased him because the way he tied his shoes seemed…”unusual.”
I felt that pang of motherly guilt: how had I failed to teach my kids how to tie their own shoes!??
Dear Boss, Co-Worker, Community Member, Friend, Family:
Today, we are all showing up carrying stuff. Feelings, emotions, and thoughts that have been swirling in us for months in this very long year have brought us relentlessly forward to this exact day: November 3, 2020, Election Day here in the United States of America.
To all the leaders, managers, and supervisors out there:
I see you. Showing up every day. Trying your very best.
Smoke. Fires. Global pandemic. Daily changes at work. Tired employees. Burn out. Hard conversations. Fear. Anxiety. Isolation.
A few years ago, a brilliant young manager asked me a hard question during a leadership training session. He said, “What on earth do you mean when you say I should lead in a wholehearted way? In MBA school they didn’t teach me anything about wholeheartedness, or actually anything about my heart at all.”